Another Song That Reminds Me Of My Annoying Friend: The More You Ignore Me, The Closer I Get By Morrissey

Once in a while, I blog about that annoying friend of mine who gets on my nerves and does the same to everybody. He's persistent to the point of annoying. The more you say no him, the more he forces the issue. He reminds of that cow in the cartoon Rocco's Modern Life. His annoying persistence reminds me of the song "The More You Ignore Me, The Closer I Get" by Morrissey.

Since the day he started to tag along with me, it's been a love-hate (with a lot of hate) relationship. A lot of times, he would insist on barging into my house and empty the frig. When that isn't enough, he would come with all these crazy schemes to sell stuff and annoy the heck out of everybody. The worst part of his escapades is that he'll till night falls and insist that I bring him home.

Those were the days (glad they're not there anymore)! The last time I saw him, he was now in the army. One thing I envy about him was that he was able to achieve his ambition to be part of the military and be an officer at that. Surprisingly, he has matured as well as settled down with a family. I haven't heard from him since and though I still consider him as a friend, I don't miss his annoying persistence. I would've wanted to record his voice rants cause I sell them for message and ring tones and I'd probably make a fortune (Ha! Ha! Ha!).

It Starts With Rebelling But Ends With Improving: My Back Pages By Bob Dylan

When you're younger, you think you know better than anybody. One way of showing it is by often rebelling against the system and acting all wild. Then one day, you realize that what you're doing is a waste of time and the only person you're fighting against is yourself. That's when you finally let go of your rebellious stage and finally settle down. When it comes from being idealistic to being more wiser through the years, the song "My Back Pages" by Bob Dylan comes to mind.

Every generation wants to leave it's mark and the first thing they do is rebel against the present system. The funny part about it is that as they change the system, they don't realize that they are just contributing to it. Along the the lines, they have no idea that they are being part of it even as they rebel against. When age starts to mellow them, they realize that there was some wisdom in the institution that they wanted to change all along. In the end, it makes them smarter for realizing it.

I guess Friedrich Nietzche was right about battling monsters. In this case, the more you battle the system the more you become part of it. Even you do retain your rebel appearance, the fact that you've made your mark in the system proves that you're part of it. Still your changes in the system made improvements in it which will benefit others. In the end, it's not about changing but improving the system that keeps it going.

Enjoy Your Youth: You're Still A Young Man By Tower Of Power

When adult's tell young people that you're young once, you better take it seriously. When you're young, you've got it all: Time, physical health, opportunities, etc. The whole world is right before you and if you live your life right, your life is going to be a blast. Just don't be hasty and be careful not to get yourself in trouble. A song that gives that good advice is "You're Still A Young Man" by Tower of Power.

The best thing about being young is that the world is still new and that you're eager to explore it. Everything is still new and there's so many great things to do. Despite all the excitement, don't just rush into a certain situation or it might lead you to ruin. There are some things that are way out of your league at that stage. No need to force it but rather just enjoy the things within your reach while it's still there cause one day, it won't be.

I hope young people take that advice seriously. They would realize the wisdom in it until they get older. By that time, all those opportunities would start disappearing and you'll be lucky if you can build with what's left. Just remember, enjoy yourself but no need to push the envelope. Live your youth to the fullest cause you're only young once.

We All Need A Hand: Hand To Hold On To By John Mellencamp

As much as possible, we all try to do things on our own. In my case, the reason for this is because you rely less on others and you get to learn new things on how to deal with the situation. Still, there are times when we can't do it all and there are certain instances where we do hit a wall regarding some obstacles that come our way. Times like that is when a helping hand comes in handy. Situations like that remind of me of the song "Hand To Hold On To". by John Mellencamp.

There's no shame in admitting that you can't figure it out. You've done all that you can and nobody can accuse you for lack of effort. Sometimes we should just put aside our pride and accept help from those who offer it willingly. People who are willing to help others are a rare breed indeed. I dare say that such individuals are heaven sent especially if they are there when you need them the most.

No matter who they are, we should always be grateful that they are there to help. We should never forget that they lent us a hand when no one else would. So when they need help, we should reciprocate in the same manner. We do not because it's obligated but because we want to return the favor. Everybody needs a hand every now and then.

Running Is Just Like Life: Marathon By Rush

Apart from my usual workout of weights to keep me in shape, I've also added running and ab work. Of the three, running or I should jogging is the hardest cause I'm a not very good and you have to make a lot of preparations (stretching) before and after you do it. Still, I find it challenging because among the three it always dares me if I can make it to the house or not. This may sound too dramatic but sometimes when I run/jog in the morning, I can see similarities between it and life itself. With that in mind, I start to re-listen to Rush's song "Marathon".

Whenever you join a marathon even just jog, the one thing you want to do is to finish the planned distance that you are about to go through. The important thing I do remember about it is breathing;making sure you run right and to stretch as well as a lot of other things. I always imagine running is much like life as when you start, you realize it's not easy and along the way there are a lot of natural and man-made obstacles that could distract or keep you off guard. Your determination is put to the test when you feel your legs burning and you start breathing deeply which is a sign of fatigue. That's when you make adjustments and though it might make you slower, at least you are able to make it back.

Same goes in life as you struggle with a world that is hard and getting harder. It starts to wear on you physically as well as mentally. That's when you push yourself harder than give in to the pressure. The finish line is the goal that you yourself set and when you reach it, that's you can raise your hands high. Like a marathon, life is a race but the only difference is the finish is the goal you set for.yourself.

Rain Equals Problems 2: Who'll Stop The Rain By Credence Clear Water Revival

In My Rain King Post, I equated the rain with problems. Like the rain, when problems come, they really pour down on you. Even if there was some respite, it would be like a small umbrella and you'd find yourself drenched. One thing about getting wet from rain and having a headache from multiple problems have in common is that you'd wish it would stop. Asking that question makes me feel like listening to Credence Clear Water Revival's song "Who'll Stop The Rain".

Like problems, when the rain comes, it really pelts you when it pours down. It starts off with soft pelts that you pay no head until they get bigger and pour down in large numbers and before you know it, you're drenched from head to toe. Problems are the same thing except with rain, you'll be lucky if it's just about getting wet. Like rain, when problems start falling one after another, it sure wears a man out. You're left cold and miserable, wondering if there's any end to this.

Whether it's rain or problems, there's no telling when it will stop. One thing's for sure and that's whether it's rain, problems or both, the only way to deal with it is to brave the downpour. Even if you do get wet, it's your way of saying that you won't back down to this crap your'e pouring on me. Still, there'll be a time when even the most brutal of storms would stop and a solution for the hardest of problems will be found. It's just a matter of hanging in there and even if there's no stopping the rain, it also about being prepared for it no matter how long it takes.

Reflections: Reflections By The Supremes

As I have mentioned, I use my favorite songs from 24K as a base for the posts that I write on my blog. It helps the ideas flow as I type my post. It also gives readers something to listen to as they read my blog entries to better understand the message in it. Every time I listen to these songs, it helps me reflect on the good old days as well as the way I feel at the end of the day. That's especially true when I dwell on certain events that left an imprint of my mind as well as my soul. One such song that makes me reflect on the way life has been is the Supreme's song "Reflections".

That's the reason why I find hard to move on a 24K Weekend. The bring out a lot of powerful memories, especially the would'ves and could'ves. Even if it's water under the bridge, you can't help but dwell on it as a 24K song reminds you of it. Times like I just get caught in the moment and see visions of the past. It can be bitter-sweet as you see the good as well as the bad. It can't be helped because that's just how strong those memories are for me.

It doesn't help that life is getting harder which only makes you long for the good old days. In the end, you get up in the morning and face the daily grind. In my case take a little time out to get myself in order just to shake the past from my head and put myself in the present. You can't live in the past and if you want to relive it, you have to work hard in the present. Still, when there's time, I try to learn from my reflections and hopefully use it wisely.

The Gentle Approach: Try A Little Tenderness By Otis Redding

I've always been described as a "nice guy". Some people say that I'm to nice to the point of being a push over. Despite that perception, there are times when I stand my ground. I just want to see if things get resolved through gentle means. When it comes to the gentle approach, the song "Try A Little Tenderness" by Otis Redding comes to mind.

When people around you have short fuses, you start to think if you want to add fuel to the fire or try to cool things down. Between the two, I chose the latter cause there's no use stoking the flames when it's already blazing. When tempers fly, you have let cooler heads prevail. Although sometimes, explosives are the best way to put a fire. That means shouting at the top of your lungs when gentleness is no longer effective.

I guess it's my training with martial arts that taught me that blowing up only alienates people and you can't have that when times are crucial. I have to admit that there are times when I'm the one who gives if means keeping the peace which leads to the push over perception. Still if that doesn't work, then I get aggressive because not only did they exhaust my patience but they also insult me as well. That brings out the worst in me. That's why when people are hot tempered use the gentle approach and hope the hot heads listen. It's a better alternative to the opposite.

I Find This More Scary Than Any Zombie Movie Scene: Comanche Written By Revels

During the early 90's, one of my favorite movies was "Pulp Fiction" which was a film by Quentin Tarantino and Lawrence Bender. I liked the film for its original approach to movie-making as well the great acting by the cast. There were many great scenes as well as memorable quotes from the movie. However, there was one scene there that I found scary. The song played in that scene was "Comanche' by the Revels.

That was the scene were Butch Coolidge and Marcellus Wallace found themselves tied up and gagged in the basement (the gags already gave me an idea of what kind of people their captors were and the gimp sent my flesh crawling). it didn't take much imagination to know what happened next when the two guys dragged Marcellus to a secret room and it was later revealed what they were doing, prompting Butch to kill one of them and leaving Marcellus to deal with the other guy. It worked out well in the end, as they both part ways with Butch cleared from his earlier offense provided that he won't come back and not tell anyone what happened to Marcellus.

For those of you who watched the movie, you know what I'm talking about. It's every straight guys biggest fear and if you ask me it's even more scary than any zombie movie scene cause it's real and it can happen. If you're not careful and you wind up like that, you know what the consequences will be. I wouldn't wish this on any guy no matter what his inclinations are. That's the reason why I consider it to be a very scary scene.

A Very Haunting Song:Ode To Billie Joe By Bobbie Gentry

There are a lot of reasons why these days I only to my rare and classic 24K tunes. Songs back then were so good that they made use stop what you're doing and listen to the song from start to finish. That riveting effect comes from the fact that sound was cool and the lyrics were deep. Some even tell tales that leave a haunting feeling that sticks with you for a while. One such song that does that is Bobbie Gentry's "Ode To Billie Joe".

I remember hearing this song one lazy summer afternoon which tells a tale about a boy's suicide by jumping off the Tallahatchie Bridge and narrated a young girl who knew him. There was a lot of mystery surrounding the Billie's death which was heighten by the fact that narrator and Billie threw something down the bridge which could be key for his jumping off the bridge. Some time later the girl still goes by the bridge and throws flowers there. It was clear that something happened between the two of them but what it was is never revealed. It's all left to the listeners to figure it out.

I remember that a novel and even a movie was made based on the song. It gave it's own interpretation on what happened to Billie Joe. As for me, this is one of the deepest songs that I've ever heard. The fact that it leaves an impression on you is a testament to how good it is. It sure left an impression on me. This is the reason why I consider this a very haunting song but good a good one at that.

Another Cool Song To Chill Out To: Soothe Me By Sam And Dave

Recently, I read from Yahoo that listening to a good song can be just as relaxing as taking a massage. All you have to do is punch up your favorite song and let the music was over you. After a while, you'll feel good as new. It's a lot cheaper than a message to boot. Another song to chill out to is Sam And Dave's "Soothe Me".

First time I heard this song was in the movie "Blues Brothers" after Jake and Elwood had a religious encounter. Of course the good feeling didn't last very well after he heard about what happened to the band. It got worse when they were being chased by the cops. Still, when I heard it, I kept replaying the scene because it made me feel good. Whether you're sitting at home or driving in your car, when you're stressed, this song fits the bill.

I guess this is one way of finding something relaxing on a budget. That's another reason why I keep my radio on the 24K knob on the weekends. Just let those classic tunes fly and everything is going to be all right. Soothing feeling without the hangover and liver is safe. Good enough to get you through the day or end the day on a good note.

Heed The Warning: Writing On The Wall By Triumph

You see it everyday. Whether it's in posters, television, the
internet or you hear it in the radio, when something bad's about go
down, don't take it for granted. Some people, on the other hand
either don't have time to read or listen or simply dismiss the danger
of the said warning, saying it's not that bad. For those who do,
they're usually the ones who get it in the end. When it comes to
heeding warnings, the song "Writing On The Wall" by Triumph comes to
mind.

A lot of times, people are attracted to things that could put
themselves at risks. Despite all huge posters and advertisements on
the radio, t.v. and the internet, the temptation to do something risky
or stupid for some people is just too good to resist or they don't
take time to read or listen. Well when they do it, the regret comes
in the end and what amazes me is that they're would admit that it's
their own ignorance or weak will that caused this mess. Times like
that, I'd to say to them you got yourself into this so don't blame or
make excuses. It's all over the place but you didn't listen so suck
it up.

Right now, all I want is to live peacefully. So when the warning
signs start popping up, it's best to heed the warning. There's a
reason why they're all over the place and that's gonna save us a lot
of grief. The writing's on the wall so there's no excuse for not
knowing. Take heed if you know what's good for you.

That Last Scene From The Movie Fandango: Can't Find My Way Home By Blind Faith

I remember the first time they aired the movie Fandango on television and that was during my last year in college during those last show schedules. I wasn't to watch all of it but I saw the last scene where they were attending some kind of party. For some reason Kevin Costner's character suddenly stopped having fun and he had that annoyed look of someone who was on the outside looking in. He remained that way until the party was over and after that the credit started rolling signaling the end of the film. The song being played at the last scene was "Can't Find My Way Home" by Blind Faith.

I guess the reason why these scene left an impression on me was because from the scenes that I was able to watch, he was a wild and adventurous dude who always went to the extreme to get a kick out of life. In short, he was the party down who'd always find a way to give the group a jolt so that they never had a dull moment. I kept falling asleep so I wasn't able to see the entire film. As I've stated above, I only saw the last scene. It really left a huge question mark in my mind to this day.

To this day, I haven't watched the entire film. A lot of priorities have kept me from doing that. Still, that scene still makes me wonder why he had that annoyed look in a middle of great party. Maybe something entered his mind and that realization made him stop and think about something, I don't know. I guess I just have to watch the whole film to find out.

A Cool Song That I've Just Got Re-Post: 853-59-37 By Squeeze

After five months of not having to blog, I was ecstatic when the attack/malware status of my blog was finally lifted. I felt like something wass missing in my daily routine and it felt great to once again blog about my reflections and memories using those rare 24K classing songs. However, there was a fly in the ointment as some jerk gave me a spam mail which earned me a warning that my account would be suspended if I don't do something about, forcing me to remove not only that spam mail but also all the legitimate comments as well as the post. Still, I wanted to post that video again because it was it was one of my favorite 24K songs and for it to be taken out was really difficult for me to do. The song was "853-59-37" by Squeeze.

As I've said in the original post for this video, this is one of those cool songs that I can listen to all day. I always request this together with Tommy Tutone's "Jenny" which also dealt with a telephone number. It's a really cool song that makes me feel good when I listen to it. That's why when I got that email regarding the spam warning, I was sad about that and it was really hard for me to erase it along with all the legit comments that I have received cause it meant that someone was reading my blog. After some thinking, I decided to re-post this video with a new entry cause it was too good to leave out and I know other fans of 24K will agree.

More than just a way to entertain readers who view my posts, these songs have been apart of my life. It's bad enough that they are so hard to get and now that 24K is reduced to just Saturdays it will be even more difficult to listen to them on the radio. I said it before and I'll say it again; I like this song and it would be a crime to myself if I didn't re-post it. It's a good song and that's all that matters to me. As for the hacker, @$@%# you and the same goes for the jerk who sent the spam mail too!

What I Learned From The Last Game Of The NBA Finals: It's Not Over (Til It's Over) By Starship

Though I'm still not a basketball fan, I found myself glued to the finals of the NBA which pitted the Miami Heat against the Dallas Mavericks. Like a classic Cindarella story, the Mavs who were the underdogs threw everything they had against the much vaunted Heat. All their hard work paid off as they out-fought their much hyped adversaries to finally win their first championship. It reminded me that while there is still time as well as determination and hard work, anything is possibler. I guess for this post, I chose Starship's song "It's Not Over (Til It's Over)".

Despite having the odds against, I was amazed by the way Mavs played during the finals, they gave no quarter and fought for every point and rebound. Even during the sixth game, they played hard and showed the same grit and determination until the last horn sounded. They won because they were not complacent and new that every minute and every shot counted. Even when Miami got the lead, they fought to retain it and once they got the lead, they extended it to ensure the Heat wouldn't be never be able to take away from them. They left nothing to chance to the very last second and it payed off. I hate to admit but I enjoyed watching it.

As for the Heat, I guess it's back to the drawing boards and I feel sorry for their fans as their much vaunted Big Three turn out to be bust. They had every opportunity to win as much or even more so than the Mavs but King James choked. I guess this is what happens when the hype over-shadows actual performance as Le Bron now has to bear the consequences of his team's loss. Once again, I congratulate the Mavs on their win. They knew that it's not over until it's over.

Still Holding On: Hold On By Eddie Money

You'd be lucky if you'd be waking up to the same old crap. Even if the day is awful, at least you know the routine and simply take the pain. When you take break with your office mates, you can expect the usual crumbling about the daily grind as if they're ready to throw down the towel. But they're there the next and are still fighting the good fight because they still believe that something good will turn out eventually. Still hanging in there even you're burned out and weary reminds me of the song "Hold On" by Eddie Money.



For those those who have achieved their dreams or are reaping the benefits of their labor, everyday is a blast for they are living life the way they want it. For those who didn't or have yet to achieve it, it's a daily struggle as to make those dreams come true. While some have resigned themselves to the usual 9 to 5 gig, others just hang in till their times come. Either way, they're still there instead of throwing the towel and ending on the streets or on a noose. It proves that they haven't given up on life.

You've got to have patience, perseverance and faith to get things right. It won't happen right away and you make do with the hand you're dealt with. If you really want it, then work for it and when it's sight go for it. Till then just bear the situation just a little bit longer. Your time will come so just hold on a bit.

A Forgotten Movie That Was Always In My Mind: Sail The Summer Wind By Lynn Paul

I remember when I was young, I was watching a movie trailer called "The Dove" and for some reason, the trailer stuck to my head. It wasn't until I was in third year high school that I saw the film on the television and liked it immensely. It told the ups and down of a young sailor whose goal was to circumnavigate the world. I found the movie entertaining. I also like one of the soundtracks from the movie which is Lynn Paul's song "Sail The Summer Wind'.

The parts I liked about the film were scenes when he met Deborah Raffin's character as well the scene where he was caught in a storm but made it back and the girl swam to meet him. The hardest scene for me to watch was when the pressures of sailing and he fell into a tantrum as his girlfriend watched helplessly. In the end, he was about to pick himself up and rediscover the reason why he set in the first place. The best was when he was on his way home and he was met by fleet of friends and family, celebrating the end of his voyage.



The reason why I never forgot this film was because I watched it at a time when things were at an all-time low. Like the Graham, I too was in a slump as things went from bad to worse at the time. When I saw that part when he found the strength to continue, it gave me hope that things will get better in the end. Right now, things are tough but thanks to this film, it also reminds me that things will get better in the in the end if you keep focus on the goal. That's why this film holds a special place for me cause it reminds me that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Sometimes Even The Ones Who Love Us Hurt Us: Love Of My Life By Queen

One of the harsh realities of life is that even the ones who love us best can hurt us. A lot of times, it's done unintentionally but nevertheless, the damage is done. For the victim, it adds insult to injury when the offending party forgets about what was done as if nothing happened. That can sow the seeds of discontent among family members. If left unchecked, it could even break up a family and lead to a lot of bad blood. When that happens, it reminds me of the song "Love Of My Life" by Queen.

As much as possible, I don't want to remember those dark days when bad blood suddenly flowed among us. Apart from the painful feelings brought about by those times, I fear talking about it would be like opening old wounds which is something I don't want to do. It was a lousy time for all of us since we were all affected by the conflict/ The best that I can do is learn from it cause I don't want something like that to happen again.

These days I really do my best to be careful of what I say or what I do. Those days still haunt me for all the pain that it brought. I'm sure that nobody wants that cause it leaves a huge hole inside you that only your loved and fill. That's the reason why I'm glad the bonds that were broken have been restored. In the end, nobody wins when that can kind of hurt happens.

Giving Your All: All Of My Love By Led Zeppelin

Yesterday somebody said something that once again brought me to new lows. It happens every time I am finally able to engage in conversation and it brings me down because once again I am reminded of the precarious situation that I find myself in. The fact that things are getting tighter hounds me day and night so much that I'm eternally tensed. I am trying as hard as I can to make things better and it's not getting easy with all the pressure mounting. Led Zeppelin's song "All Of My Love" best describes my frustration of doing all that I can but still coming up short.

For the last three years, I've been struggling to find ways to make ends meet and now that my father has died, that struggle has just gotten harder. I give whatever I could when it was needed and a lot of times I wind up short and when it's not enough, it really hurts me because it reminds of all the bad decisions and the wasted time of the could'ves and maybes. If I try to complain, it wouldn't do any good since my past actions or inactions got me to this situation. I don't even care for myself anymore and it's been a long time since I've done something for my personal enjoyment. Then someone drops a line that hits a nerve and when that happens, it's the same as a slap in the face.

I can't even relax anymore and it irks me that the few good conversations, let alone moments that make me feel good get ruined by those lines. I don't show my reaction but deep inside it really hurts and I wonder how the people who drop these would feel if they were on the receiving end of this kind of treatment. If anything, it's a grim reminder of how hard things are but in my case, they really make me remember that fact in one way or another. Well as always, take the pain and fight is the only thing that I can do. I swear, WHEN things really get settled (and I know they will), I'm going to hit the bottle cause for once I want to enjoy what I reaped cause I gave it my all.

Why We Want To Go Back To The Past: Living In The Past By Jethro Tull

When you wake up and you see the same old problems tormenting you, it gets tiring. It gets to the point where you wish you wouldn't wake up. Apart from that memories from the past become more vivid in your mind. It's because times were good compared to the grim reality you keep facing. In the end, if you'd be able go back, you would because life was happier back then and problems were nowhere to be found. Wanting to live in the past reminds me of Jethro Tull's song "Living In The Past.

It's a very upbeat song that makes me feel both happy and relaxed with is now a luxury here in the present. It makes me remember the times when life was fun and there was nothing to worry about. Sure there were no cellphones, facebooks, internet, etc. because there was no need for it. You met up with people and really felt their company. There was real interaction with real people and you can really feel it.

Life was more fun back then but sadly you live present and it's all you've got. If you want things to get better you have to work for it and that's bottomline. Just take your time and work things out then when it's over, the good times will be back. The past is gone but one day all times will come. When it does, it'll be like living in the past all over again.

Remembering My Father: My Father's Eyes By Eric Clapton

I almost forgot that apart from the start of the of the school year, June also celebrates Father's Day. This is the day where we honor our father's who have brought us from to this world and have been our guiding light through our lives. Once again, this day has melancholy note for me and for my family as our father is no longer with us. Now that he's gone, I'm beginning to understand why he acted the way he did, especially now that I am trying my best to do what I can for my mother. Remembering my father reminds me of Eric Clapton's song "My Father's Eyes".

Though it's been a year, I'm still miss my father, especially during Saturday mornings when I would help load his golf clubs to the car or when he ask for a back-rub to loosen up for the evening. When I was younger, I couldn't understand my father due to his temper that led to many outburst, but later in life, he became more affable and it great to hang around him, especially during the weekends when the family gathered for dinner. That's the reason why we still find it hard to believe that he's no longer here. It gets harder when I see my mom suddenly bursting into tears which is a sign that she still mourns his passing.

They say that once someone is gone, that's when you regret it and right now it I have to admit that it's true. There were so many things that could have done if he was still alive but alas, it's over now. The best that I can do is straighten out my life and carry on. There are still a lot of things that I have to do but I am determine to succeed for his sake. As Father's Day approaches, I miss him deeply. I hope he's happy up there with Grand Father and Nanny and I hope one day, we'll see him again.

When You Can't Believe What Happened: Misunderstanding By Genesis

As much as I want something to go perfectly smooth, there are times when a nasty surprise comes out of nowhere. That usually happens when the last thing that I want is for something to go wrong. When the bad news suddenly breaks and crap hits the fan, you'd like to believe that it's just your imagination. Unfortunately, it isn't and now there's a whole new mess you have to deal with. When it comes to unpleasant surprises/development that ruin your plans and hopes, the song "Misunderstanding" by Genesis comes to mind.

I guess I've been letting the pressure get to me lately because every time somebody assures me that it's fool-proof, something always happens that ruins it all. When disaster strikes, you're left with a wide-eyed look and you try to find answers. Then the clods who gave you the assurance are nowhere to be found. In the end, you find yourself holding a very messy bag. Two are on your mind and they are "What Happened"?!

Well one thing's for sure and that's live and learn. Fix the situation as best as you can learn from the mistakes. Sadly, this doesn't mean that it won't happen again as some people are careless or clueless and it's so hard to rely on such clods. In the end, you just do what you can. Misunderstandings and mistakes happen so just be prepared for them as well.

Art Of Negotiating And Convincing Difficult People: Charm The Snake By Christopher Cross

What Do successful businessmen, martial arts masters,military strategists, psychologist, psychiatrist and negotiators have in common? They know what to say and what do to get things done even in the most difficult situations. These days people like that are valued in times of crisis when dealing with particularly difficult people. How they do it will always be a mystery? One thing for sure, they know what to say and when they do say it, you can sure that you're home free. When it comes to reasoning with difficult people, let alone navigating through very treacherous territory, the song "Charm The Snake" by Christopher Cross comes to mind.

I've always admired people who have been successful by being able to convince people to buy or invest in a product or property. It takes a lot of guts to be able to do that It also amazes me how fast their mind works when they have to answer a ton of rebuttals and how they maneuver themselves to point where they control the situation. That's a talent that very few people possess and institutions that are lucky to find such people value them highly. Smart and aggressive guys like that are hard to find.

I do wish I had that talent because I was always a shy and passive person. Seeing people like that though has taught me to that you have to have a certain aggressiveness that convince through charm not by force. That way, not only do these stubborn buy into the idea but they keep coming back for more. I too hope to learn that method. There are a lot of snakes out there. You have to have the right charm to win them over.

Those Good Old Party Days: Louie, Louie By Richard Berry

With the unhealthy surprises coupled with everyday pressure, I find myself longing for the good old days when time was plenty and parties were rowdy. I was younger and my tolerance for the juice and herb was quite strong. Our parties may not have been those fashionable, but it was always close knit. When the juice started flowing and smoke fills the air, that's when the party starts rolling on it's own weight. Later on, people will rolling on the floor as they're too zonked out from a wild night. Those wild days remind me of Richard Berry's song "Louie, Louie".



I really liked this song when saw the pledge scene of Delta Tau Chi's new members in the movie Animal House. When you watch that scene, it gives an idea what kind of parties we have. A lot of brews, tried and proven pals and cool music topped with a lot of laughs as the juice sinks in and somebody starts to keel over. The next day is another matter as you struggle with a hangover and clean up the mess from last night. Still, being with good people and having a good time makes it all worth it.

These days, I don't have time or the dough for such escapades. Apart from that, a few bottles and I find myself passing out which is sadly a sign that I'm not young anymore. Still, one of these days, I would to have at least one of those kinds of parties with my friends and brothers all around drinking and laughing at old and new stories that we loved so much. All work and problems can really make a person dull. What better than a rowdy party with the buds to chase the blues away.

No Help When It Was Needed The Most: Just When I Needed You Most By Randy VanWarmer

Before I start this post, I want to make it clear that I am not aiming this post at anything or anyone. I understand that times are hard and everyone has their hands tied. With that said, here it goes. This post is for all those who fell forsaken at times when they needed help and are sad or bitter because of it. I'll be using Randy VanWarmer's song "Just When I Needed You Most".

Why is it that when times are hard that there is no help in sight. A lot of times, we move and do what we can but it's not enough. Despite assurances, you find that the help promised and the people who will help you are suddenly nowhere to be found. It hurts because you really needed it and you wind up with a cupful of sand. You're just left with a huge mess and a bitter pill to swallow. The worst part about it is that there is nothing that can be done about it since it's over.

As much I believe that one must stay focus on the goal and not the problems/obstacles, there are times when crap happens and it is so painful that you are left paralyzed from the blow. It takes you awhile to pick yourself up and clear your head but it's the best that you can do. You realize that it's to you and soldier on in the hopes that you get it right. You just move because you can't depend on them anymore. In the end, it's up to you and nobody else.

Keep Your Dream Alive: Dream On By Aerosmith

Achieving a dream or an ambition is important for a person if he or she wants to be happy in life. Having a dream is what keeps a person going as to make something of himself/herself in the world. However, making that dream no matter how small or how big is another matter as criticism and obstacles are thrown in one's path which could hinder one's progress to that dream. Still, that doesn't mean that we should just give up and wallow in regret but try harder till we achieve our dreams. Aerosmith's song "Dream On" is a reminder that we should keep our dreams alive.

The fact that tomorrow is the first day of school reminds me how kids have a lot of dreams that they want to fulfill in life. For some of us, those dreams are gone and we're trying to salvage whatever we can to have some sort of peace or satisfaction in our lives. This due to the sad truth that something bad happened or we just gave up. Someone, however, told me that if you have the will, then it's out there for the taking and nothing and no one can stop you. Though my old dreams are dead, I'm trying hard now to make my new ones come true. This time around I won't give up til l achieve my dreams.

I have learned recently that while you are alive, anything is possible. Though my recent entries are depressing, I never loose sight of that which is why I keep going. I don't want to give up anymore and cry sour grapes. That will give you sleepless nights of regret that will you up and before you know it, you're a hollow shell of yourself. Keep your dreams and alive and live that dream cause it's the only to live life.

Feeling At Ease In The Evening: Heart Of The Night By Poco

As much as it is bad for my health, I tend to stay up a little late than usual during the evening. With no where to go and no one to see these days, I have said many times that it's in the evening that I feel at ease. When things quiet down, I get a chance to relax and calm down after all the stressful surprises of the day. It gets better when I turn on my 24K tunes which I'd rather do to feel better. One song that does that is Poco's song "Heart Of The Night".

Back then I thought I had a lot on my mind. These days those thoughts has multiplied a thousand times more. With no money and everybody that I hang out with gone, finding a way to cope has just gotten harder. It's only when the evening comes and everybody's dozed off, that I finally feel some relief. The night breeze cooling me off and the 24K tunes are a good combination of chasing the blues away.

It may not be enough for some but it'll do for me. I'm getting older and those bright lights and expensive bars have already lost their appeal. Still, the only side effect is that I miss my buds and bros and the good times that we had when life was less stressful. Listening to this song and others like it during the evening is the next best thing. All I need to do is just cruise down the memory lane in the heart of the night and everything's all right again.

Wondering If One Is Superstitious: Superstition By Stevie Wonder

One negative effect about having to deal with every pile of crap that's thrown at you is that you start thinking if someone's out to get you. It gets to a point where you start to feel that every action you take might have adverse effects on you or people close to you. You become so self-conscious, you start thinking that that there's trouble everywhere and you get worried to the point that take any precaution to ensure that things will be okay, even if people start thinking you're weird or superstitious in the process. Getting the feeling that one is becoming superstitious reminds me of Stevie Wonder's song "Supertition".


It starts when bad things happen one after another and you start getting desperate on how to stop this. You try any kind of method no matter how eccentric just to ensure that things won't go wrong. it gets to a point where you don't even want to break from your routine because doing so might bring in something bad. Sometimes a call from home or news about a relative is enough to fill one with dreadful curiosity. When that sets in, you need to stop and start assessing your behavior before you do get crazy.

I guess to get over that you have to face the world and be prepared as best as you can. There are just things that happened that can hit you very hard even you do all that you can prepare for the world. In the end, there are some things we can't control and bad things happen. It's just a matter of dealing with them in the end. Sometimes it's kinda hard but if we let our superstitions control us, we might as well be living in a box which is something I don't want to do.

One Of My Favorite Fight Movies: The Wanderer By Dion

One of my favorite movies when I was growing up was the "Wanderers". Like the "Warriors" which was also my favorite, it was different gangs that roamed the streets. Only difference is that the Warriors was set in the late 70's or early 80's while the former was set in the 50's. Still both films had very cool fights scenes that I kept watching again and again. Theme song from the movie was appropriately "The Wanderer" by Dion.

I don't know if it was really true about gangs back then with each of them having their own gang jackets that sets them apart from other groups. Still, when you were a kid seeing guys in groups wearing the same kind of jacket or clothes strikes you as impressive. Apart from that, what I really like were the fight scenes. They were realistic and in-your-face action that kept you wanting for more. Even the martial arts scenes of the Wongs in the rumble was impressive cause it depicted the proper use of martial arts in a fight.

The five of us were always fight fanatics when we were young and anything that had fight in it, we'd watch it to see if it was worth it. Nowadays, most gang films are all about the guns where most people hide behind rather let their fist do the talking. That's the reason why I'm not excited about movies nowadays cause all about the effects rather than natural moves. Like a lot of good things, those days are now gone forever

Girl Buddies: Playing With The Boys By Kenny Loggins

I never tire mentioning how I valued people that I have accepted as my friends. This is especially true now that I seldom get to see them. Though most of my friends are male, I did some who were female. I can tell you they hang with the guys and can match them in whatever gimmicks that we had and they were fun to be with. Remembering these gal pals reminds me of Kenny Loggins song "Playng With The Boys".

Some of them, I've met at school while others. I've met at work. They made me realize that some girls can really hang with the guys. I was even amazed that some of them were really rugged and can much or even surpass me when we had some brews. More importantly, they were down to earth and not like the prissy pedestal princesses that I usually encounter. Bottom line is that they were cool girls and they partied hard without losing their poise.





Like a lot of my friends, I don't see or hear from them a lot nowadays. I sometime talk or text one of my original girl buds from time to time and I'm glad that she's doing okay. Like a lot of my guy pals, they were fun to be with. I bet some they're all settled down in one way or another. They got my respect because they were willing to run with us guys and I will always wish them well for that.