Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Pleasing The Girl: If He Knew What She Wants By The Bangles


Sometimes winning the girl is not enough. I have seen many of my friends who, after so much hard work of trying to win the girl they like , wind up loosing them in the end. One of the hardest lessons that they often tell me after that exprience is that winning is doesn't end there. Just because you get the girl to say "yes I'll be your girlfriend" doesn't mean that it's enough for her to be with you. At this point in time, you have to show that you're serious about her and one of the ways of doing so is to know more about her. If you don't, not only will you hurt her but wind up loosing her. When I remember what they told me, the song "If He Knew What She Wants" by The Bangles comes to mind.

Although I'm not a fan of this all-girl band, I do like this song which I would probably have a slow dance with a girl if it gets played in a party. Anyway the songs deals about expections that women want from their men. This is one of the many ways of maintaining a successful relationship with your partner because can you love her if you don't know anything about her. The reason why you want to know everything about her is because you love her and want to take better care of her. It deepens the love that you have because when you know everything about her, only can you know her needs as a person which is crucial to a strong relationship.

Another thing that this song reminds me of is the anime Suzuka where the male lead character named Yamato falls for a young female athlete Honoka but gets dumped. He then hooks up with one of his classmates Honoka who really likes him, but winds up loosing her because he doesn't know a thing about her and he still has feelings for Suzuka. He was still in love with Suzuka which hurt the other girl because she realized that he was taking her for granted. Although being smitten helps start a relationship, it's the willingness to know the person more that shows true love, especially when we accept others for all their virtues and flaws. That way you really what she wants and how to give it to her.


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